Wednesday, June 3, 2009

It’s “Simple”-- Just Listen

Parents need to focus on their kids and listen to them. One of the most powerful ways to build a relationship is to listen. You have to know what is going on in their heads. In some ways it is no different from establishing a friendship. When you listen to someone, you are telling that person that he or she is important to you. As you and your teenager become more important to each other, you will want to spend more time together. When you feel you are reaching this point, begin working on some activities together.

As the relationship and trust are gradually (or sometimes quickly) reestablished, the rebellion will become less of an issue. Your kids don’t have to hurt you now because they like you, and may even love you. They don’t have to rebel against what appears to them as your stupid rules any more because now they know you love them and have their best interest at heart. They don’t have to have sex with someone now just to be rebellious—they trust your judgment more—even if they don’t understand it perfectly.

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