Monday, November 23, 2009

Why Suicide? Part 3

What problems are behind the signs of suicide? What prompts a student to consider suicide? Family disruption, depression, escape, loss, and guilt were noted in the previous two blogs. Here are more signs that may be at the root of your friend's disturbing behavior.

Attention or manipulation
Does your friend feel unimportant and ignored by parents, peers, or friends? If so, threats or attempts at suicide are often a cry for attention and for help. It may be your friend's way of saying, "I'm hurting. I'm desperate. I don't know how to cope, and I need help. Please, someone pay attention to me!" Suicidal threats may also be an attempt to manipulate parents into giving him or her something he or she wants.

Has your friend been severely hurt or embarrassed by someone? Sometimes the desire for revenge is stronger than the desire to live. Self-destruction is seen as the ultimate act of punishment against the hurtful person. Suicidal revenge may be the twisted response to the breakup of a close emotional relationship.

If you have a friend who is showing subtle clues of suicide, there is hope. You can take some positive steps toward relieving the pain that may be causing your friend to entertain thoughts of suicide. Hopefully, you have the prayerful support and guidance of mature Christians on whom you may call if you need help. But even if you don't, you can still be a great help to your friend.

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