Wednesday, October 14, 2009

Divorce and Encouragement

In the process of mourning a divorce or other painful situa­tion, you have three significant needs that can be met by spiritual leaders and Christian friends: comfort, support and encouragement. It is important to be aware of these needs and to allow others to meet them. See blog #35 for comfort. See blog #36 for support.

You need encouragement. In addition to com­fort and support, you need the encouragement of others. You receive encouragement when some­one does something thoughtful to lift your spirits like calling, emailing, praying or checking on someone. Encouraging deeds like these may not seem as practical as someone help­ing out with chores, but they are just as necessary.

If you do not receive the encour­agement you need, ask for it. It's okay to tell someone who cares about you, "I need a hug" or "I just need you to be with me for a while." The comfort, support and encouragement of people who love you will make a significant difference in how you get through the pain of your parents' breakup.

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