In the process of mourning a divorce or other painful situation, you have three significant needs that can be met by spiritual leaders and Christian friends: comfort, support and encouragement. It is important to be aware of these needs and to allow others to meet them. See blog #35 for comfort. See blog #36 for support.
You need encouragement. In addition to comfort and support, you need the encouragement of others. You receive encouragement when someone does something thoughtful to lift your spirits like calling, emailing, praying or checking on someone. Encouraging deeds like these may not seem as practical as someone helping out with chores, but they are just as necessary.
If you do not receive the encouragement you need, ask for it. It's okay to tell someone who cares about you, "I need a hug" or "I just need you to be with me for a while." The comfort, support and encouragement of people who love you will make a significant difference in how you get through the pain of your parents' breakup.
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