Sex as a form of rebellion signifies faulty relationships within the student’s family. However, concerned parents can take some initial steps to reestablish the relationship. First, there is one basic principle a parent needs to remember: Rules without relationships lead to rebellion. If you are not nurturing a relationship of love, acceptance, and affirmation with your child, he or she will throw your rules back in your face in some form of rebellion!
Second, back off on as many rules as possible, especially grounding. Let the kids know you want to rebuild mutual trust. You are still in charge, but you can’t show your kids you trust them if they have no opportunity to prove themselves trustworthy. You need to exercise caution, however, because a sudden switch from rules can lead to anarchy and could confuse the situation. Relationships that have eroded over the course of years won’t instantly change and kids won’t respond just because you expect them to do so.
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Thursday, May 28, 2009
Rebellion: A Lack of Relationship
Rebellion, rather it be active resistance or passive indifference, is a reaction generally caused by a lack of relationship. Counselors see again and again how the rebellious child in question is reacting to poor relationships, both between the parents and child, and between the parents themselves. One marriage and family counselor estimates that in as many as 95 percent of cases with a rebellious child, the parents also need marriage counseling. He reports that amazing results in the children’s behavior take place once the parents get their act together.
Imposing rules on a young person will not work if a positive relationship has not been established between him and the one making the rules. The child will rebel against authority since he is not convinced the authority figures have his best interest at heart. To counter the rebellion, parents often lay down even more rules. It becomes a battle with parents and children pitted against each other, rather than working together toward understanding.
Imposing rules on a young person will not work if a positive relationship has not been established between him and the one making the rules. The child will rebel against authority since he is not convinced the authority figures have his best interest at heart. To counter the rebellion, parents often lay down even more rules. It becomes a battle with parents and children pitted against each other, rather than working together toward understanding.
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